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It isn’t what it is

The best things that have ever happened to me, I didn’t even want in the first place.

I’ve realized that it can be difficult to truly know what is “right” for us. Because of this confusion, we may accidentally force the wrong things or people into our lives, causing us to consume so much energy and time until we are drained. 

Life will create many obstacles intended to warn us against what isn’t meant for us, but unfortunately, this chase can create an obsession to obtain what we can’t have. And, if we finally do get the “things” we weren’t supposed to, we feel unsatisfied because it was never for us. Sometimes getting what we want makes us realize we never really wanted it.

Satisfaction and happiness will come naturally from what’s meant to be. Everything is happening FOR us, not TO us. By this, I mean that life unfolds to our benefit to further our personal development, not to hinder it. 

Effort that’s reciprocated is effortless. You don’t get drained when you’re being recharged. I am a huge believer in hard work but there is a difference between working toward our best interest and working toward what is not good for us. Go for what you want. Don’t wait for it to come to you. The saying “it is what it is” isn’t good advice because we have every ability to go after what we want and make it happen. But when you find yourself in a one-sided situation, forcing things to work, or holding on to potential, let it go. Learn your own limits and boundaries without settling for “it is what it is” because it isn’t.

My takeaway from the last month has been to realize WHY the things I think I want aren’t working out for me. By understanding what is and isn’t in my best interest, I am able to accept and actively work toward a goal that will actually benefit me. My mistake was that I was looking for happiness in the people and situations in my life, but I’ve begun to understand that no “thing” or person will satisfy me. I don’t think that happiness is found somewhere or in someone; instead, happiness is a decision. It’s a mindset choice. I wake up telling myself that today is a great day and I walk with my head held high. I listen to upbeat music and follow a routine that I enjoy. I take care of both my physical and mental self. I set challenging goals so that I am always moving forward. I’ve never been happier and I truly think it’s because I’ve allowed myself to be. 

1 Comment
  • Emil Rowman

    Your writing style is engaging; I couldn’t break reading once I started.

    June 30, 2023 at 9:13 pm Reply

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