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Let’s Focus

Sorry, I’ve been MIA. I'm realizing that it’s hard to stick to one thing unless there’s a strict deadline. I’ve also concluded that it can be difficult to focus on what you have to do when there is so much going on around you. Being in college has been a real test because I have work to get done but I also want to maintain a social life; there is limited time and endless stuff to get done. Even staying organized, I find myself always overwhelmed. Over these last few months, I’ve noticed just how important it is to define your priorities. As humans, we can’t focus on too many jobs, people, activities, etc. at once, as focusing on an...

Sorry, I’ve been MIA. I'm rea...

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Feeling Guilty?

Guilt. A common emotion. What can guilt make you do? Guilt can make you overstep your own boundaries because you “feel bad.” Guilt can stop you from saying no. Guilt can linger in your thoughts and cloud the present moment. I think guilt is such a normal feeling and it can be hard to subside. People can make you feel guilty or you can evoke the emotion yourself. Sometimes I think that guilt holds me back more than fear. Guilt is common in so many outlets of life. People may feel guilty about what they eat, the way they spend money, what they do, and what they don’t do. I honestly don't know if there is a way to get...

Guilt. A common emotion. What...

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Range: A new perspective

I am currently reading the book Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein. The book argues that having a broad range of knowledge and skills is more valuable than deep specialization in one area. This is because generalists are better able to think conceptually and solve problems in new and unexpected ways. I find this argument to be particularly relevant to my own situation, as I am about to enter my sophomore year of college. In college, students are often encouraged to specialize in one particular area of study; however, I believe that it is important to maintain a broad range of interests and knowledge. Especially as the world is becoming increasingly complex, we need to possess...

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No Solution

I am at peace. There is no heavyweight holding me down or worries spinning in my head. I’m not saying I have no problems. I’m simply saying that they do not consume me. Freedom is not eradicating “the bad,” but the ability to control how you respond to it. Problems are inevitable. We all have something to complain about or something new that worries us. Even during calmness, we find a way to create our own problems. When I used to encounter a problem, my immediate response was finding a solution. I thought that not finding a solution to problems made them linger, but it’s really denying problems that make them last. In other words, you can acknowledge a problem...

I am at peace. There is no he...

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It isn’t what it is

The best things that have ever happened to me, I didn’t even want in the first place. I’ve realized that it can be difficult to truly know what is “right” for us. Because of this confusion, we may accidentally force the wrong things or people into our lives, causing us to consume so much energy and time until we are drained.  Life will create many obstacles intended to warn us against what isn't meant for us, but unfortunately, this chase can create an obsession to obtain what we can’t have. And, if we finally do get the "things" we weren’t supposed to, we feel unsatisfied because it was never for us. Sometimes getting what we want makes us realize we never really...

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Talking about speaking

I’ve talked about public speaking on this website before and I truly feel that it is a skill that puts you ahead of the game because it gives you power and confidence. Learning how to communicate with one person versus an audience is a big change in comfort. Ultimately, public speaking is important. But I bet you already knew that. We take multiple public speaking classes in college, give presentations at work, or perform in front of crowds. But while public speaking is such a valuable skill, I feel like communication on a smaller scale is overlooked. We try to focus on learning how to speak to a large group of people, yet struggle talking to one person. People don't...

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Moving Forward…

We don’t learn our lessons until we are forced to. We don't listen to what we know is right until we have to. We don’t let others go until we are the ones let go. We wait… even though we knew all along. We can be confident, strong, and smart individuals while also ignoring the obvious answers. We can't feel guilty over this “self-sabotage” because sometimes this is what it takes for us to learn and grow. We can hear other people's advice but it's only until we are ready to act upon it ourselves that we actually listen to it. I learned a lot in 2022. I discovered that people won’t change because of you. The reason why we keep...

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I think that…

Ignorance can be bliss for short-term happiness Communication isn't helpful without comprehension There is always time for what we want Awareness of your surrounding environment and people is necessary   We should try to not take things personally  People express the same emotion differently  People don’t change Judging is inevitable  Consistency is harder than motivation The “bare minimum” doesn’t exist; it’s normalized today People are sensitive Sharing your opinions is dangerous  Cancel culture is so immature  It’s easy to be influenced  We let people hurt us because the pain without them hurts more Time goes by fast no matter if you’re having fun Our patience varies based on the person We speak before we educate We pretend to care about a topic if it’s trending No matter how much sleep, everyone's tired Money controls our life We complain too much  Excuses are...

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Update

Reminiscing evokes different emotions for everyone. Just reading that word could’ve brought you back to something from your past that quickly. I’ve been reminiscing lately because life went from continuous wins and successes to unfortunate losses. My pre-college life was so different; I was class president, well-known by students and teachers, top of the class, and submerged in extracurriculars and opportunities. The flow of wins made me so hopeful. Since coming to college, it’s been hard to feel known or unique. I was surrounded by familiarity and routine for so long. At first, the transition to college was so fun and easy because I loved the independence. Unfortunately, it became another routine, one that didn’t live up to my expectations....

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This I believe

The question, “What do you want to be when you're older?” is asked in Kindergarten. I’ve been asked what I hope to accomplish, where I want to live, or simply which restaurant I want to eat at. Question after question requires constant decision-making. I’d like to say I’m a decisive individual, but as I begin my transition into college, I’ve faced questions I can’t provide an answer to. I feel as though career decision-making is overrated and over-pressured, as it forces a set-in-stone mindset; I almost feel guilty for flipping back and forth between decisions. My major, career path, social involvements, and club and class interests contain decisions that are made to change, yet I feel held down to make...

The question, “What do you w...

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